2018-09-12 / Opinion

‘Class of 1964 Class Reunions’

By Roger “Buck” Davis

It’s May, 1964, and it’s that special day. You are graduating from Miller County High School You are so close with some of your friends, and you think it will always be this way. Now, you’re going to find out that this isn’t exactly true.

As we go off to college, find work, get married, and start to raise our own kids, we see that things have changed from the days of our youth, when our parents took care of our housing, meals, clothing, and medical bills.

The day we graduated, we had the world by the tail. Now, we have found that life is not what we thought it was going to be.

If your family still lived in Good Old Miller County, you came home for a visit on holidays and kept up with what was happening, but if your family moved, you hardly ever made it back. So now you’ve been out of school for over 5 years, and you hear that there is going to be a class reunion at the old grammar school in Colquitt.

Excitement is the first thing you feel. Then disappointment. You think that if you attend you won’t live up to the expectations your classmates had for you. You go, though, and you find that those friends who were so close to you are now somehow different than they used to be. They, too, had not turned out exactly like they had planned.

Some dropped out of college, others had gotten married, and some already had kids. Only a few succeeded in completing the plan they had laid out for the future. The only thing you have in common with almost everybody at the reunion is what you talk about while you were in high school together.

So you’ve gotten your first lesson of what life is really all about. But it was good to see everybody who showed up for the first class reunion, and you say to yourself, “Boy, some of my classmates seem to have gotten older and have really changed.” You say goodbye, and look forward to the next one, which is supposed to be in 1974.

Now another five years have passed, and it’s time for the second reunion at the Donalsonville Country Club.This time it will be different. Almost everyone has gotten married, had kids, and started on their career, while others had fought for our country in the Vietnam War. We had lawyers, farmers, school teachers, coaches, and all other types of occupations. This is the reunion that everybody comes to, to see who had become a doctor, lawyer, or president of a company. This is also the one where you show off and talk about your pride and joy. No, not your spouse. Your kids! Your kids, who you think are the cutest and smartest in the world. Your other classmates who have kids of their own think the same thing about their children.

After all the showing off of the kids pictures, you finally realize that “boy, these people really have changed.” Except for yourself. And boy, everyone else sure has put on a few pounds since 1964.

Then, as you take the time and think about what you have accomplished, and where you are with your family and career, and you see that most everybody at the reunion is fighting the same battles: family values, money problems, weight gain, and aging. So we are 10 years older than we were in 1964, and our about to be in our 30s. It sure didn’t take that long to get here. In only 32 more years we’ll be 60.

Where has the time gone? The things that mattered so much in our minds when we planned our future have been put on the back burner, so we could face life’s everyday situations.

Before we close our 10th reunion we took the time to remember the classmates who are no longer with us. That helps us understand that life on this earth is very short, and we need to make the most out of every minute that the Good Lord gives us to be here.

The really said thing about reunions is that the people hat never left Miller County and still live productive lives there don’t take the time to come to a class reunion because they have health problems, wished they had made something different out of their life, or they really don’t care about seeing their class members and talking about old times. It is truly your loss, and as we get older, remembering yesteryear means a lot more today than it did when we were in our late 20s.

Of course, at our first 2 reunions, the good old boys had not changed a bit. Steve Holt, Jerry Widner, Harry Warren, Ronnie Widner, Charles Wade, and myself all looked the same in our minds. We just didn’t take the time to look in the mirror.

Next week: what I remember about the 25th class reunion.

May God Bless

RTD & Judy

Huntsville, AL

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